I’m down to the final rush; 5 days until Christmas. Gifts have been purchased and wrapped, cards sent, and now it’s just the parties and family gatherings to attend.
However, because I’ve been busy getting ready for Christmas, I’ve had to ignore my writing: I haven’t had time to get AS THE CROW FLIES uploaded to KDP, haven’t had time to watch the video lessons on how to use Photoshop, haven’t followed up on why I haven’t heard from an agent, haven’t posted on Twitter or LinkedIn or had time to read Tweets or LinkedIn messages, and haven’t had time to write the next scene in my third Crow book.
In one way I find this very frustrating. (Whenever I go a long time without writing, I start feeling edgy, uneasy, and frustrated.) What I have to keep reminding myself is at this time of the year family and friends take priority, that writing and all that goes along with writing (one could probably say the same about any job) must come second for a while. We can’t take the people we love for granted. There are no guarantees they’ll be around tomorrow. Simply listen to the news or read the headlines. There are car accidents, random shootings, fires, and horrific incidents like the massacre at Newtown.
I could tell my son I don’t have time to visit or my daughter that I won’t be over to celebrate her husband’s birthday because I have a scene to write. I could tell my husband to leave me alone (preferably by leaving the house) so I could read Tweets or watch Photoshop videos, and I could turn down social invitations from friends because I need to do research. But how would I feel if something happened to my son, my daughter, her husband, or my husband? What would I have of value if I lose contact with all my friends because I ignored them? I don’t picture success as having a multitude of books published, but no family with which to celebrate each milestone or friends to share the news.
Writing can be addictive, especially when a story in your head is burning to get out. Nevertheless, I’ve found I have to prioritize each part of my life: writing, family, friends, and housework. Sometimes, such as now, family will come first, sometimes writing (especially if I’m on a deadline), or friends. (Rarely does housework come first, so you’d better call before you drop by.)
Today I visited with my son and with friends, tomorrow, if all goes as planned, will be a writing day…so please stay away.
But before I close, I do want to wish all who celebrate Christmas a very special day. I know it will be special for me. I’ll be surrounded by family.