Critique Groups: Pro/Con

Several years ago another published writer and I presented a debate at a conference we were attending. She took the positive position regarding critique groups, I took the negative. At that time I saw a lot of negatives to critique groups; since then, I’ve changed my mind.

Oh, many of the points I made that day still hold true. 1) Critique groups can stifle creativity. A writer can get so she slants her writing to meet the expectations of the group, may consciously or subconsciously write scenes and chapters he knows will meet with approval rather than coming up with something original. 2) The work of a critique group’s members may all start to sound the same.  Rather than an individual voice, the group may create a “group” voice. This is especially true if the members have not established their own individual voices. 3) A critique group can confuse a writer.  Often a writer will get conflicting information. Some members will like a piece, others will shred it. The result is the writer doesn’t know what to think or do. 4) A harsh critique can discourage a writer. If a member or members totally shred a piece, especially if this critiquer is published, the writer may feel she should simply give up. Many new writers question whether they have the talent to be published and a critique of this nature can make them give up before they’ve had a chance to learn the craft.

Because I do believe the above negatives can occur, picking which critique group to belong to is important, as well as if or when to join one. Some writers simply don’t need feedback as they work on a story. For those writers, a group is not as important as finding a Beta reader or readers after the work is finished. Other writers do need a group to see if certain scenes are working or to simply push themselves to keep working. Sometimes knowing the group will be meeting in a few days and you need to have something ready by then is the push a writer needs to sit down and produce.

I have been lucky in the past to belong to three different critique groups, all of which were helpful, but often in different ways. One group focused specifically on the mystery genre. That group was helpful because the members (there were only 3 of us) read mysteries and knew the expectations of that genre. Another group (much larger) wrote in a variety of genres.  With that group the writing often became the focus: was the piece well written in terms of grammar and spelling, and was it clear to the reader what was happening. I loved the diversity of this group. Yes, I often received conflicting information, but by this time I was at a stage where I could sift through the critiques and decide if something needed
changing or not.

I moved a couple years ago and during that time the critique  groups I belonged to have also ceased to exist so I’m now looking for a group.  This isn’t easy. I don’t want to join what I call a “feel good”  group. There’s nothing wrong with writers who get together to read their work  and be told it’s “interesting” or any number of “nice”  words. I think putting words on paper helps people understand themselves and  the world around them, but I’m looking for feedback that will help me sell what  I’m writing. If someone likes what I’ve written, great, but if something isn’t  clear or could be developed so it had more punch, that’s so much better. I also don’t want to join a group where some members are jealous of the success of others and focus their comments to tear a writer’s work to pieces. I want a group where we all want each other to succeed and that’s the focus of our  comments.

It’s not easy to find the perfect group, but I’m looking. If  you’re in such a group, be happy. If not, keep looking.

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When the Thrill is Gone

Today I had lunch with a writer friend. He’s written short stories, novels, a memoir, and plays, but he was feeling down today. He said for the last few months he simply hasn’t had the desire to write. There hasn’t been anything he’s wanted to write about, and that bothers him. He likes being a writer, likes the process of writing, but he just can’t find the enthusiasm to do it. At least not lately.

His question was: What should I do?

Well, I didn’t feel qualified to advise him, but he was buying my lunch, so I felt I had to come up with something. The first thing that came to mind was the old cliché “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” So I told him to stop writing.

Of course, being apart doesn’t always work when it comes to matters of the heart, but I thought maybe it might work in this case. I know I always tell people who ask if they should be writers, that if they can “not” write, then they probably shouldn’t consider writing as a career. Most writers will tell you they simply can’t stop writing, that when they don’t write for a period of time, they start getting cranky and feel out-of-sorts. So I figured  if my writer friend stopped writing maybe that would once again trigger his desire to write.

I also told him to give himself permission not to write. Sometimes I think we put too much pressure on ourselves. We have to produce, otherwise we aren’t really writers. Right?

No, that’s not right. There are times when creative people (whether they’re writers, artists, or in any of the artistic fields) need to replenish the well. I’m hoping if he can get past worrying about why he’s not writing, that something will come along that inspires him. Something he can get excited about…  something he’ll want to write about.

I also suggested he might try doing the “Morning Pages.” That’s when you simply write, non-stop, for three pages (preferably when you first get up in the morning) without thinking about content, grammar or spelling. In fact, you’re not supposed to reread what you write or let others read it, and it’s even suggested, after a time, you simply toss, shred, or burn what you’ve written so you aren’t tempted to go back and read it. Although that sounds drastic, the idea is to free yourself from your internal editor. Simply let the words and ideas come out, that by doing so, you will actually stimulate the creative juices and you will, then, be able to be more creative in the writing you do either for your job or for yourself.

I have no idea if my friend will do any of the things I suggested, but I hope he will find the desire to again put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard). If you have any suggestions, please feel free to comment and I’ll pass your ideas on to him.

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Also, today I received a letter from Harlequin®. They are soliciting inspiring stories of women who have made extraordinary contributions to their communities. This contest isn’t open to Harlequin authors, but they want us to spread the word that they’re looking for stories of women who are making a difference in the community. There will be 5 finalists that will be voted on by the public, and the top three will receive an award as well $15,000 donated by Harlequin to each of their causes. For more information, go to http://HarlequinMoreThanWords.com

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Why Worry

While at the Retreat from Harsh Reality (http://www.retreatfromharshreality.com/)
last weekend I had breakfast with a new author who mentioned that she is really stressed due to mishaps and delays regarding her book, which is due out this summer. I tried to give encouragement, but I’m not really sure it made any difference, and I remember how I was with my first books. Back then, even if everything was going smoothly, I found ways to stress myself, which might have been one reason my blood pressure rose at that time (after years and years of being low).

As I’ve mentioned before, writers are in a very stressful profession. It’s a hurry-up-and-wait business. It’s a career where you only have so much control over what happens after you’ve written the book. With the larger publishing houses, unless you’ve become a NYT best seller, you have almost no control over the book’s title, cover, back blurb, and where the marketing department places it in their line-up. (That’s one of the nice things about the smaller publishing houses. They usually do give the writer more control over the title and cover and often the writer produces the blurb. The negative with the smaller publishers, at least up until recently, has been their lack of distribution and/or budget to promote the book.)

Our books are like our children. For months, sometimes years, the book has been a part of us, growing, changing, and taking on its own personality. We want it to have a perfect birth, to go out in the world and do well. It’s natural for us to get upset when anything goes wrong in the process, but as I told the writer who’s stressed out over the birthing of her book, she’s done all she can at this stage. It’s not worth getting stressed over. It is a book, not a person who might die if all doesn’t go well.

Back when I started writing, I think my mother realized I was getting stressed because she did a needlepoint for me of the first part of St. Francis of Assissi’s Serenity Prayer. Although my mother has passed on, I still have that needlepoint and always try to keep that prayer in mind whenever I start to get stressed.

The
Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

 

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Finding Time to Write

I’ve probably blogged about this before, but it’s a problem that simply doesn’t go away. I remember when I started writing. I had two preschoolers at that time and finding time to write was a real challenge. My two still remember me telling them if my door was closed, I didn’t want to be interrupted unless there was blood or a bone was sticking out. (Yes, I was a terrible mother, but they did survive.) I wrote when they were playing and after they went to bed. Once they started school, I had more time to write: while my husband was at work and the kids were at school. I did learn I had to quit an hour before they arrived home, especially if I was working on a scene with a lot of conflict, otherwise, the moment my husband or the children came through the door, I was ready to yell at them. I learned to write while watching my son wrestle or play football, while my daughter played softball or took a riding lesson. Any spare moment, I either jotted down notes or edited pages. When I had a job (to pay for those riding lessons, the horses, and horse shows), I actually produced more stories than ever before, but I always thought…just wait until I’m retired.

Well, I’m now retired. Actually, I’ve been retired for over ten years. I should have lots of time to write. Right?

Not so.

Part of the problem is my husband’s also retired, meaning he’s always around, so I don’t have those nice productive blocks of time when I’m alone. Another problem is when you’re retired, you figure you have nothing to do, so you join organization…and suddenly you’re on committees.

I guess the point of this blog is there’s never going to be an ideal time to write. Not when your children are young, not when you have to work and raise a family, and not even when you’re retired. You simply have to find the time to write, and if the story is there, begging to be written, you will find the time.

That’s all for this week. I need to sit down and work on a story that’s begging to be written.

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On The Road Again

Two more days and we’re heading north. I’m going to miss the sunshine and constant warmth, but it will be great to be close to family and friends. And don’t feel sorry for me, I’m leaving one beautiful location to go to another beautiful location, and soon it will be summer…days of sunshine and warmth.

In ten more days I’ll be attending RETREAT FROM HARSH REALITY, the Mid-Michigan RWA chapter’s annual event. http://www.midmichiganrwa.org/retreat.html Eileen Dreyer is the guest speaker this year. She’d not only a marvelous writer, she’s a lot of fun to be around, so I’m really looking forward to the event. If you live in Michigan or are within driving distance, you really should check into this retreat. Every year they have marvelous speakers, and I always go away inspired.

I feel my time in Florida was well spent. During these three and a half months I attended Sleuthfest (in Orlando), finished a suspense that I’ve started sending out to agents, finally figured out how to use Amazon’s Create Space so THE CROWS is now available as a paperback http://www.amazon.com/The-Crows-P-J-Benson-Mystery/dp/1467919306/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1334773995&sr=1-3, and almost have one of my former Loveswept’s (a romantic suspense) ready to put up as an e-book. I’ve also been working on the outline for the third “Crows” book and should be ready to start writing that next month.

So for now it’s “Happy Trails.” See you next week.

 

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The Waiting Game

Being a writer is a hurry-up-and-wait business. Either you set deadlines for yourself, or, because you’re under contract, you have deadlines set for you. So you push yourself so you make those deadlines, and then you send the story off . . . and you wait. You wait for the agent or editor to say yea or nay. And while you wait, you’re supposed to start something new . . . stay busy. And that’s a good idea, but even while working on something new or staying busy, a part of you is waiting. Waiting and worrying.

I usually start out certain what I sent was wonderful, but within a few days of not hearing anything back the self-doubts arise. Was the plot unique enough? Was the pacing fast enough? Too fast? Should I have developed the characters more? Will the story be turned down because it doesn’t have enough depth?

The self-talk also begins. I tell myself it’s too early for a response, to relax and be patient. I tell myself if this agent (or editor) doesn’t like the story, someone else might. (Will.) I remind myself that I have sold other stories (27 so far), that there are readers who like my style of writing, and editors and agents who have liked my work in the past. I tell myself to put that story aside and concentrate on another story.

But I can’t completely ignore those nagging self-doubts.

I’ve always told myself writers are in a better position than actors. With a writer it’s the story that may be rejected; with an actor, it’s the person who is rejected. “Sorry, hopeful star, you’re too tall, too fat, too old, too ugly…”

Nevertheless, when a story is rejected, it’s like being told your child is too ugly. It still hurts.

It’s been a week since A KILLER PAST was sent off. I won’t tell you if it’s rejected. I’ll simply pour myself a glass of wine and sit down with a box of tissues, and I’ll mope for a day or two. But then I’ll send it out again, because that’s what writers have to do. To succeed we can’t let the rejections hold us back. If the rejection included suggestions, I’ll consider them, and if I feel they’re valid, I’ll make changes. And before sending it out
again, I may read through the story one more time, to make sure I don’t see areas that could be improved, but otherwise, off it will go…and I’ll remind myself how many times Harry Potter was rejected.

On the other hand, if the story ever makes it to contract, you’ll hear about it, loud and clear…and I’ll probably say I never had any doubts. (Ha!)

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The Day the Music Died

Please welcome my guest blogger, Shelly Bell, as she talks about:


The Day the Music Died

Music is part of my soul. When I was younger, my head was always full of music. No matter what I was doing, I had some song playing in my mind. I’m not the only one. In college, my friend admitted that he too had a soundtrack playing silently throughout his life. It’s probably no coincidence that the two of us are artists. While we both sang and acted in our youth, he’s now a graphic artist and illustrator, and I’m a writer.

I haven’t asked him if he still hears music. I’m guessing he does. Sadly, the music in my head died about a decade ago and I don’t know why. All I know is that I miss it sometimes.

In high school, I was part of the theater and choir crowd. Although I listened to rock and pop, I really loved musical theater. Phantom of the Opera and Les Miserable were the popular shows at the time. I knew all the words, and my friends and I would act out parts of the musicals. In fact, we did this even before we’d ever seen the show. The music and lyrics of the shows filled us with emotion and longing we didn’t understand, but needed to portray. I felt the characters’ emotion through the artist’s voice.

Every once in a while, I turn on my favorite musicals in my car and sing my heart out. However, it’s more common these days for me to listen to music and visualize my own characters. Every main character in my books has their own soundtrack. In A Year to Remember, it was mostly Abba music for Sara and Sara Bareilles for Missy.  Now that I’m writing an edgier, grittier paranormal, the music is darker with lyrics about loss and
faithlessness.  All except the soundtrack for the bad guy, who’s obsessed with Mozart.

I can’t always write to music because it’s distracting. But I do listen to get in the mood. Instead of music, my head is now filled with the voices of my characters and scenes from their lives. I’m not sure why the music died in my head. Perhaps I needed to make room for all of my characters. I’ll always be grateful to music and its’ creators for providing me with an art which touches my soul and inspires me to write.

Shelly received her Bachelors of Arts in Social Work and a Certificate in Women
Studies from Michigan State University in 1990 and her Juris Doctor Degree from
Nova Southeastern University, Shepard Broad Law Center. Practicing law since
1997, she specializes in corporate, environmental and employment law as In-House Legal Counsel for a scrap metal company in Detroit. She and her husband reside with their two children in Michigan. A member of Romance Writers of America, she writes both women’s fiction and paranormal romance.

When her younger brother marries on her twenty-ninth birthday, food addict Sara Friedman drunkenly vows to three hundred wedding guests to find and marry her soul mate within the year. After her humiliating toast becomes a YouTube sensation, she permits a national morning show to chronicle
her search. With the help of best friend Missy, she plunges head first into the
shallow end of the dating pool.

Her journey leads her to question the true meaning of soul mates, as she decides between fulfilling her vow to marry before her thirtieth birthday and following her heart’s desire. But before she can make the biggest decision of her life, Sara must begin to take her first steps towards recovery from her addiction to food.

A Year to Remember is available as an e-book at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Soul Mate Publishing.

Follow Shelly at:

www.shellybellbooks.com

www.twitter.com/ShellyBell987

www.facebook.com/shellybellbooks

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Why Blog?

A writer friend of mine brought up a good question. Why blog? Why do we do it? I know editors and agents are saying writers must have an Internet presence, but why do we need to have a blog to accomplish this? What is the purpose of blogging? I know I find some of the blogs I read very interesting and informative, but there are hundreds, no thousands, maybe millions of blogs being written and posted ever day. At what point do we say there are too many blogs? And what are all of these people blogging about?

Lately I’ve been focusing on writing with my blogs, but there are lots of blogs past and present about writing, and I know there will be lots more in the future. What can I say that hasn’t already been said? To be honest, there are some Wednesdays when I simply don’t know what to say. If I’m going to take the time to write a blog and ask others to take the time to read it, I feel I should try to impart some tidbit I’ve either learned or come up against.

So should I only blog when I feel I have something important to say?

From what I’ve heard, you need to be consistent. Blog every day or blog on certain days, but create a pattern that readers can begin to expect. In that case, blogging is much like writing. We can’t simply write when the mood or inspiration hits us, we must do it in a consistent manner if we expect to succeed, and yes, some days we might not write anything worth keeping, but after a while we will end up with a story (and we can always cut the writing from those bad days. I guess we could also go back and delete the bad blogs…but they say once it’s out there it’s always out there.)

I decided to blog on Wednesdays, and I’ve been fairly consistent, but one things I’ve discovered is blogging takes me away from my regular writing. If I want to impart information in my blog, I often have to do some research. That takes time. Actually, there are many subjects I could and would like to blog about, but I’m lazy. I don’t want to take the time to do the research those particular topics would require. And I don’t want to write about myself. I’m a fairly private person, but beyond that, I don’t see why anyone would want to know three (or any number) things about me.

My friend (the one who asked this question) says:  ”I feel both a desire and a responsibility to read the work of my colleagues even if I let them pile up in my mailbox in-basket to the point where I want to shout and wreak havoc on my hair … then calm down and gently go through each one and find the pleasures and wit and humor and wisdom that my friends and colleagues care enough to share with me.”

I’m not as generous with my time as he is (and I admire him because he’s very busy). Unless the blog is about something important to me, either as a person or as a writer, I’ll usually skip the blog. I’m on the Internet way too long as it is.

Anyway, I don’t have an answer to my question. I’ll probably continue blogging on Wednesdays. If you don’t have time to read my blog, I’ll understand. If you can tell me why I need to blog, please do. Otherwise, have a good week. Stop reading blogs and get back to that story you’re writing!

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Saying Goodbye

I have one change and then one more read through of my work
in progress (wip), and if all goes well (meaning I don’t find any major problems and I do fix all minor ones I come across), my story will be ready to send off to the agent who requested it.

I don’t know about others, but this is always a difficult time for me. First of all, I’m always wondering if what I send is really THE BEST story I have to offer (at this time). If I kept it home and read it through again, would I find errors? Would I realize I could say something better?

I don’t think writers are ever 100% happy with what they’ve written, even after it’s been published. It seems like the moment a story goes into print, I hear a bit of information that I KNOW would be great in the story, or I read another writer’s work and discover a better way to express an emotion, describe a smell, create tension, develop… The list goes on and on because, as a writer, I’m always learning. We’re all always learning. (Writing is called a craft.)

I rarely read the finished book. Oh I carefully read the line edits and the copy edits and galleys or advanced reading copies. Those are the stages where I can make changes if necessary. Of course, that’s not the time to rewrite the story, but if I have made a real booboo and changed a name, or something has been left out, or I have a typo, misspelled word, etc., I can fix that. But once the book is in actual print and on the shelves, it’s too late. Yet I know, if I give the book another read through, I’m going to find things I WISHED I’D CHANGED.

The other reason it’s always difficult for me to say goodbye to my wip is I’ve lived with these characters for a long time. They’ve become friends. They talk to me, tell me when something isn’t working right or suggest new situations where they can shine. In this case, I’ve lived with these characters for over two years. First my main characters started out whispering to me, giving me ideas about their pasts. Over time their voices grew stronger
and they were quite insistent on what they would or would not do.

I know readers like sequels, and I fully understand why writers like to write sequels. They don’t want to say goodbye to the characters. In my case, I know my characters are fictional, I know they’re not really talking to me, but darn it all, they’re my friends, and even though I’m going to soon send them on a journey, I hope we’ll have a chance to spend more time
together in the future, time to meet new people, and time for them to get into more trouble.

How about you? Is that how you feel, or are you glad to say goodbye?

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Finding Time for those Crucial Final Edits

I’ve had an agent request a look at my work in progress (wip), and I’m eager to send it to her, but before I do, I want to (need to) make sure it’s as good as I can possibly make it. That means I’m going through it page by page, checking formatting, making sure I haven’t switched names, hair color, etc, and checking to see that everything is in the correct order.
(My story starts the day before Halloween and ends before Thanksgiving, so I need to make reference to the holiday decorations, weather, and all those little features that can make or break a story.) This is also the time to eliminate repetitions, get rid of clichés, and perk up the dialogue.

All of this, in my opinion, is necessary, but it does take  time, and what I’m finding the most frustrating is I can’t always find the time. In the last week we’ve had several friends from Michigan stop by. I truly enjoy seeing these people, and my husband and I enjoy taking them around and showing them some of the great spots here in Florida, but these side trips and meals out are hampering my diet and the read-through of my manuscript.

Mothers with young children often say they can’t find time to write and that they’ll write a book once the kids are grown and they have more free time. Well, the truth is that free time never comes. You need to make the time to write because it doesn’t matter what phase of life you’re in, there will always be interruptions. You have to make choices: give up some things (often it’s sleep), say no at times, and allocate chores whenever you can.

I don’t want to say no to the friends who call and ask if here’s a time when they can stop by, so I’ll be staying up late a few nights so I can have uninterrupted time to read through my ms. And that’s all right. Late at night it’s cooler and quiet. My husband’s asleep, the dog doesn’t need to be walked, there are no TVs or radios on, no telephone calls, and no
unexpected visits. I can truly delve into my story.

So guess what I’m doing tonight.

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